036: What Happened When I Was Brave: Using Tools To Conquer My Fear!
What Happened When I Was Brave: Using Tools To Conquer My Fear!
We were invited to speak at a recent Babes Support Babes group of women entrepreneurs. The owner, Christine Brinkman, had heard our podcast episode 17 - about Unlocking Your Inner Brave and wanted us to share that message during one of their monthly meetings.
Our initial thoughts were “Wow - what an honor to be asked”! We talked about it and even seriously considered how we could get Melissa to Texas to go with Julie. Once reality set in, Julie decided she needed to “practice what she preaches” and she bravely accepted the offer to speak.
As luck would have it, The Mel Robbins podcast episode that came out the day Julie was prepping for the presentation called “4 Simple Tools to Conquer Your Fear” proved to be a great resource for Julie! It was all about research done regarding performance and feeling nervous and that with a simple reframing method, I could prevent my fear of public speaking from keeping me on the sidelines. You see, I WANT TO WANT to be a good speaker! I’ve just always been so nervous that I forget what I need to say, my voice cracks, and I feel very stiff and boring. I love listening to speakers who are at ease and who enjoy being in the spotlight.
Mel even explains how the techniques actually leverage your body chemistry, physiology, and your neural pathways to your advantage. Instead of letting fear take over, you can actually trick your brain into thinking you are excited about something you are really afraid of doing. So, that’s what I did.
Y’all. It worked.
I made it through my presentation. The voice inside my head was telling me “I’m excited” even up to the very second I began talking from the front of the room. I’m certain I didn’t say all my lines just as I’d planned. I for sure looked at my notes more than I wanted to. But, I did it! And my biggest hope was that the talk would be an interactive conversation, so I wouldn’t have to talk the whole time. And it was. The group of ladies actually responded to my questions!
The magic starts when you step outside your comfort zone and that takes BRAVERY! Did I want to decline the offer to speak? Yes, I did. Am I so glad I didn’t? Yes, I am. Not only did I make some new friends, decide to join this sweet community of Boss Babes, find some amazing women to interview, and take a brave step in getting better at public speaking, I also ENJOYED myself. Like, dare I say I liked giving the presentation. Does that mean my fears are conquered? No way. I’ll be scared again the next time….but now I have this special memory and know I want to go there again.
Links
Babes Support Babes owned by Christine Brinkman Website and on Instagram @bsbsatx
Episode 17 - Unlock Your Inner Brave: Courage Quotes and Reminders to Inspire You
The Mel Robbins Podcast episode that helped Julie - Incredible Research From Harvard: 4 Simple Tools to Conquer Your Fear
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